Words. They can be beautiful. They can portray happiness, love, sadness, passion, anger… We have so much power within our tongue. And, take it from me – once it flies out you can’t take it back. We have the ability to hurt, to comfort, to love, to humor, to breakdown, to destroy, to humiliate, to set on fire – all with our words.
We all talk too much. We’re too busy talking or filling the air with meaningless words we forget words are only a piece of what makes up our intentions. I love words, of course. I enjoy writing them, I enjoy thinking of things to say to illicit reactions, responses… it’s much more fun to write when you’re not doing it because you “have” to. It becomes easy. It becomes so easy it’s dangerously simple to have a diatribe of words and nothing to back it up.
Nothing to show you care. Nothing to show you mean what you say. Nothing to back up what you say – who you are. We’re all guilty of saying “Let’s get together!”, “I’ll call you soon!”, “I miss you!”… And, yet… we never get together. We never call. We don’t go see the person we miss. We have become hollow words.
This is probably going to be a terrible example but I’m going to use it anyway because it makes sense. I’ve always been the girl the guys like to have as their friend. They tell me their woman problems, they jab me in the side when something funny happens, they ask me for advice. Someone once told me guys are intimidated of me… Maybe some are but the ones worth dating aren’t. So… yeah! Anyway, this is not about my dating life. This is about the fact that because I have, at times, had the “inside track” on how men work and they all say the same thing when it comes to doing things… if they really want to do something, they do it. You don’t have to twist their arm, you don’t have to beg them, you don’t have to wonder what’s going on. If they want to ask you out, they will. If they miss you, they’ll tell you. It’s not usually a “muddy” scenario. Women don’t seem to grasp this. At all. It’s not hard!! Hell, I have a hard time remembering it and I’ve been told first hand that and a lot of other gory details. Gosh, maybe this is turning into a dating post. Anyway…
So I say that to say… when we really want to do something we do it. We’re all that way – not just men. We should mean what we say and we should follow through with it. I’m terrible at returning phone calls. Horrible. So, I don’t tell people I am going to call them unless I am going to pick up the phone then or very soon and actually call them. Some people don’t care if you follow through with your words or not, but most of us do. And, if you’re friends with someone or you care about someone – you will follow through. You will show them you care and you’re making an effort. Because relationships – all of them – are a two way street. If you haven’t heard from someone in awhile and you’re sitting around thinking, “Well, I’m going to let them call me.” Please don’t be that person. We all have been at some point but maybe they’re waiting for you to call? Maybe they think you don’t care? Don’t always make it about yourself.
Actions. They take time. They take dedication. They take selflessness. They’re not as easy to demonstrate as words. They are the tangible body of our literary creations – whether they are simple or complicated. They are who we are.
Humans need to stop playing games with each other. Life doesn’t need to be so complicated. If you miss someone, tell them. If you love them, tell them. Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Stop being scared. Stop being petty. Stop being selfish. In the words of Nike: JUST DO IT.
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